strive: 1.) make great efforts to achieve or obtain something. 2.) struggle or fight vigorously.
It’s hard to talk about being okay with losing when you made a good effort and still lost. Winning is important, but if you let the result be the primary motivator, you will soon lose all motivation.
We must find a way to consider striving for the good result the win in and of itself. If the good thing happens after you have strived, that is just a bonus. The striving after some good thing is the win.
This is advice that goes back to Biblical times. The apostle Paul talks about pressing toward the mark, a high calling. He talks about running in a race where only one will win, but there is good in the man that "striveth for the mastery."
This ancient advice is nearly 2,000 years old! It’s still true to this day. Strive, pursue, make a good effort and be happy with that. To strive is to win. The one who learns to strive toward his goal, and be content with it, is the one who wins every single time. Strive.