A self-absorbed and uncontrolled life is nearly always an unhappy existence. However, much like the Dunning-Kruger effect, the confidence of the self-absorbed person is inversely proportionate to their ability to understand why they have a miserable existence.
I’m more interested in the uncontrolled aspect of the “uncontrolled life.” I believe that the lack of order in your life or business leads to a lack of peace and stability.
In terms of business, the disorderly business owner spends his days putting out fire after fire. Everything is a reaction to the next crisis. The business owner who has systems and orderliness spends the majority of his time being proactive and avoiding problems before they become full-blown crises.
While orderliness and attention to detail might seem annoying at the moment, they give us peace and stability in the long term.