I’ve been writing a bunch about critics and “haters” in my last few blog posts. It’s because I’m working on organizing those thoughts in my head and solidifying them as a habitual process for myself. When I write about things, they seem to stick with me better than just thinking about them without writing them down.
We all probably have two different primary motivations for doing what we do. A positive motivation (e.g. I want to make money to provide a good life for my kids) and a negative motivation (e.g. I was doubted by my English teacher in 5th grade, I’ll show him exactly how successful I can become!)
Objectively the "positive motivation" is more important for your life. Hate, etc… is like taking a poison pill and waiting for it to kill you.
But the negative motivation is often the one that fills us with a fire that will do far more to push us forward than any positive motivation ever could.
Great winners are great winners, not because they love to win, but because they hate to lose. They are motivated to take extreme measures to find success.
What negative motivation can you find to cause yourself to hate losing with a hatred far greater than any joy of succeeding?
I have the people who doubted me and abandoned me that fill my mind anytime I start to give up or have doubts. I can succeed and I WILL succeed because these people will be forced to see me thriving and happy with an ultra-successful business.
I want them to be forced to see my success and how wrong they were and live with that forever. It is dark and dirty, but it’s an explosive motivator and I intend on taking advantage of it.