Lack of self-awareness is a kiss of death

The guy who thinks he’s the funniest in the room is never the funniest in the room. The guy who tells us how good-looking he is –is generally insufferable. The guy who doesn’t let the conversation breathe, or doesn’t let somebody else have their moment, isn’t usually the most popular guy at work. (And maybe even the guy who writes blog posts thinking he’s some kind of philosopher or something is also pretty annoying.)

When we allow our ego to get to our head and drain our humility, we have been touched by the kiss of death. It’s very difficult to be successful or even liked when you lack self-awareness. And a lack of self-awareness is accompanied by a galling level of self-importance. Indeed a kiss of death.

Ideas are free

Ideas are all free, yet we strangle ideas in the cradle because we become distracted thinking about how the idea might be possible.

When you’re coming up with new ideas you should intentionally try to NOT be practical. Finding ways to make the ideas work is for later. Coming up with ideas should be a time when you unbind yourself from the constraints of reality.

Dreams aren’t real and your ideas aren’t either. But without a good wealth of ideas, you won’t make stuff that is creative or innovative at all.

Don’t destroy ideas because they seem impractical. All the best ideas are impractical, but figuring out how to make the idea come to life is for later. Ideas are free so don’t be scared to capture them, save them, and share them.

Creating something new every day

Pablo Picasso lived for almost 92 years. He had around 33,398 days in his life. He created 26,075 works of art over the course of his life.

That is an average of one new piece of work every single day from age 20 to age 91. Every. Single. Day. Picasso made a new thing every day.

Create something every day. When you consume, take the time to create. Sustain your creative drive by making something each day.

Squeezing more money out of people

It's not all about squeezing the most money out of people. Better to offer a price that's fair and won't break the bank, especially when you consider what else is available out there for your best customers. When folks feel like they're getting a ton of bang for their buck, they're much more likely to come back and spend with you again. It's a win-win.

Rebuilding trust

Trust is broken in a moment and takes years to rebuild. Lately, I’m convinced that trust can only really be rebuilt when the person who broke the trust acknowledges that nobody should trust them again. With humility there is healing and where there is healing, trust can be rebuilt.

Say “hi”

Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead. Be the one who says “hi.”

Just this moment

Everything doesn’t always have to be about the future. Sometimes to goal needs to be simple. Complete today. Do your work well just this moment. Survive another moment. Do what you’re doing right this moment with full focus and attention.

The effect we have on the people around us

We should all ask ourselves what value do we have that can serve the world. The effect you can have on the people around you is the most valuable currency imaginable. Do you treat everything you do as important?

The little things we do affect everyone around us, so take pride in the little things when people aren’t looking and you’ll behave much better when people are looking.

Say it with fewer words

I am the classical over-explainer. I say many words and I write many words. Too many words.

Ideas are best conveyed with fewer words. Write your sentence. Read it back. Re-write it with half the number of words. This is good.

Yielding a partial right of way?

A driver yielded his right of way and waved me on through the intersection yesterday. When he waved, he waved very vigorously and angrily. He repeated this about three more times before I had completed my left-hand turn through the intersection.

It made me think about yielding the right of way, not just in traffic, but in any part of life.

When you yield, or defer, to another person, you give up the right to also tell them how to do the thing you’re yielding to them. You can’t yield your right of way in traffic and then expect me to move at your pace. If you’re in a rush, don’t yield the right of way. But if you do yield, let the other person go about it however fast or slow, however cleanly or sloppily, and however intelligently or stupidly they wish to do it.

Otherwise, you haven’t really yielded at all.

Only fear fear itself

The famous quote says that the only thing we should fear is fear itself. The reason we ought to have a fear of fear itself is because fear disables our ability to think critically. When we lose that ability, we practically lose our ability to make choices and do things that we decided. We do as others wish or demand and we convince ourselves that it’s the best thing we could do.

Respond or despond

Life happens and we respond to it.

When bad things happen, that’s life happening, too. None of us can control life how life happens. We can only observe when it happens and control our reaction and contribution to the things that happen around us.

When life happens, we respond because that’s all we can do. Will you respond or despond?

Risk being seen

Your need for acceptance will make you invisible in this world. You need to have the courage to risk being seen if you want to make an impact. That naturally comes with the risk of being rejected, or maybe more scary, the realization that you’re not good enough, not skilled enough, or not interesting enough.

At least you or I can work on getting better at those things, but we must first be willing to risk being seen.

Talent is distributed unfairly

There is no limit on how much better we can get. Talent is distributed unfairly, but there is no limit on how much you or I can improve upon what we start with. Don’t limit yourself, the limitations will appear, but make sure that they aren’t coming from yourself.

You can’t catch up

When you start falling behind you can’t catch up. Actually, you can catch up, but you can’t allow yourself to believe that.

You must keep producing and contributing value. Rent is due every day. What you did yesterday doesn’t mean you worked hard today. So you must drill into your mindset that if you begin to fall behind, you won’t catch up. So don’t slack and pay the rent due every day.

This is annoying

About an hour ago I had such a great idea come to me for this blog post. It was really a great idea and I was excited to write about it.

The idea was so good that I almost wrote it down, but I decided not to because I was sure I’d remember it later.

Now I’m sitting here and I have no idea what that good idea was. I only remember the excitement I had thinking about it. And now it’s gone.

Always write your ideas down because they’re not material and they’re always in motion. When we write, we seal ideas physically and keep them still for later.

How to become a better artist

To be a better artist you must make yourself a more interesting person. Interesting people are better painters, photographers, storytellers, designers, and writers.

Be genuinely interested in other people if you wish to become an interesting person. The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they find you. To be interesting, be interested.

My three-step process to becoming more interesting is:

1. Read books.

2. Step out of your comfort zone.

3. Be interested in others.